How to Identify a Pansexual
A person who identifies as pansexual is someone who can be emotionally, romantically, and/or sexually attracted to anyone despite their gender identity. This sexual orientation differs from bisexuality in that it includes the prefixpan, or all. Bisexuality, on the other hand, includes the prefixbi, or two. Therefore, pansexuality includes all gender identities and sexual orientations. It represents people of whom can be attracted to anyone. Learning to ask or find out from someone about their sexual orientation can be a tricky thing as you can appear to be invasive, or even ignorant if you use the wrong words or methods. Make sure you're well educated on what sexual orientation is before submerging yourself into a conversation about it, especially with someone you don't know very well. However, the more you discuss it with close, well educated friends, the more you can begin to understand sexual orientation and even explore your own. Finding out if someone is pansexual can be done pretty swiftly and smoothly if you know how to ask and where to look in regard to their sexual orientation.
Make sure you ask respectfully and avoid slurs that can be considered rude.This includes abbreviations such aspan. You should always use the full word "pansexual" when asking about orientation. The same rules apply to when asking someone about any orientation.bi,homo, and other abbreviations can appear offensive and should be avoided. Jokes are never okay. Puns off of the double meaning in "pan" are quite common and offensive. Ask politely- Your sense of humor is never appreciated when it is used to make fun of another person's sexual orientation or the way they were born.
Understand that not everyone chooses to label their sexual orientation.As a label may make someone's sexual orientation easier for others to understand, some people see their orientation as a much more fluid subject. Therefore, if someone chooses not to label themselves as pansexual despite having been involved with men, women, transgender people, and gender queer people, you shouldn't go out of your way to consider them pansexual. Respect their identity, or lack thereof.
If you're not in the position to ask someone about their orientation, look at their past relationships if at all possible.See the variety of genders of people they've dated in the past and make an educated judgement. Keep step three in mind, however. Although an educated guess is okay, don't begin calling someonepansexualsimply because you believe they are based on their pasts.
Consider prior knowledge about someone to be a gateway to ask them about whether or not they are pansexual.If you know someone has dated someone that you know to be transgender or gender queer, then you may be in the position to ask them about their orientation. For example, "I heard you were in a relationship with xyz. I was curious, and I hope you don't mind me asking, but are you pansexual?" or, "Feel free not to answer if this is personal, but what is your sexual orientation?" However, be careful when doing something like this and know how to read the conversation. If said without true, factual prior knowledge about someone, your asking could appear to be a quickly designed assumption and read to be very aggressive and offensive.
QuestionCan kids be pansexual?Top AnswererChildren usually figure out their orientations around ages 9-12, so if the child is around this age, they probably know what they are talking about. Give the child plenty of support, and possibly a library book that explains different orientations in a factual, accepting way. Don't worry about it too much; everything is pretty innocent during childhood, and with love and support, the child will figure things out.Thanks!
QuestionI am still in high school and have never been in a relationship before, but for now I don't mind dating a person of any gender. Could my feelings be real?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerYour feelings are real, because you are really having them. Maybe the way you identify will change, for some people it does, maybe it will remain the same. It doesn't matter as long as you are happy.Thanks!
QuestionI think I am pansexual because I could love someone (emotionally, not physically) because of their personality, not their gender or appearance. I have loved anyone but the opposite sex, so I'm not very sure, also I'm just 12.wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt depends in what sense you mean 'love'. A person of any sexual orientation can love people in a friendly or familial way, regardless of their gender. To be pansexual, your sexual or romantic feelings toward people have to be unrelated to their gender. If you could see yourself in a romantic relationship with people of any gender, maybe you are pansexual. But it's perfectly okay if you're not sure yet. You're very young. It can take many more years than this to really figure these things out.Thanks!
QuestionI'm not exactly sure what I am. I do know that I would date boys or girls, but I also do sometimes look for appearance, but then get to know someone before I judge them. Am I just confused or what? I don't know what to call myself.wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerYou can call yourself whatever you want. It sounds like you could be pansexual, but that's up to you to decide. You can even identify as "questioning" if that's how you feel. There's no rush to get it "right" or figure it out. And everyone judges others for their appearance to some extent, that's totally normal.Thanks!
QuestionAm I pans because I wouldn't care if I fell in love with some one regardless of sex and gender?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIf you feel that under the right circumstances, you could be sexually attracted to someone of any gender, you might be pansexual. If you are sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender only but feel you could enjoy a romance with anyone, you may be a panromantic heterosexual.Thanks!
QuestionI am pansexual and gender fluid and I don't really know how to explain that to people without getting a weird look. What can I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerFor the pansexuality explanation, trying starting by saying that you're attracted to personalities instead of a specific gender. I like to explain that if I feel a connection to a person, I don't feel like their gender is important for that connection to be intimate. The gender fluidity is a little harder to explain. The first and most important part of the conversation is that you establish the difference between gender and sex. Sex is the reproductive organs that you have, but gender is a group that you identify with. Sometimes you feel like identifying as a male, sometimes a female, or sometimes something else entirely. Gender has nothing to do with the parts you have.Thanks!
QuestionI think I'm pansexual, but how can I be sure?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIf you feel attracted to people regardless of their genders (i.e cis male, cis female, trans, bigender, agender, etc.) then you're pan. Remember that sexuality is a spectrum, and there's nothing wrong with not being sure of where exactly you fall on that spectrum. Just explore as you see fit.Thanks!
QuestionWhat is the difference between bi and panCommunity AnswerBisexuals are attracted to two or more genders -- usually male and female -- whereas pansexuals are attracted to all genders or are attracted based on personality, not gender.Thanks!
QuestionHow do I know if someone's pan and not bi?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerAsk them what they think about the looks compared to personalities and which they find most attractive. Someone who is pan will be more interested in personalities. Of course, so will many other people, so this isn't definite but a good starting point.Thanks!
QuestionI am a pansexual twelve-year-old. I want to tell someone, like my parents, but they clearly don't support LGBT. (Whenever they catch me watching Yuri on Ice they call it unholy.) What should I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerFind friends that are supportive. Then tell them your sexual orientation. If you have a more open-minded relative, like an aunt, uncle, cousin, etc., you could try talking to that person. Or, if you want to tell your parents, just explain that you were born this way, and nothing can change that. You simply love people for who they are, not because of their gender. They should accept this.Thanks!
- Pansexuality is not completely accepted in today's society, therefore support is always appreciated. At the same time, don't make a big deal out of someone's sexual orientation as this could make them feel alienated or even offended.
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